In the same way, the Spirit helps us in our weakness. For we do not know how we ought to pray, but the Spirit Himself intercedes for us with groans too deep for words. And He who searches our hearts knows the mind of the Spirit, because the Spirit intercedes for the saints according to the will of God.
At least she isn't suffering now can arrive with a warm hand on your arm after the service and still land like a stone. If a phrase like that, or God needed another angel, was said to you, you may have nodded and thanked them, then carried the weight of it home all the same.